Monday, December 5, 2016
Friday, November 4, 2016
Saturday, September 24, 2016
Fvckedup
Ever have that one person in your life that you just can't give up on? The one person who can screw you over time after time yet you always seem to give them another chance? No matter how many times you say that this is their last one, you know it's a lie because there's always just one more waiting for them? The one person you know you're better off without but yet you can't find a way to let them go? Because deep down inside you wouldn't know what to do without them. The one person that you know doesn't deserve you but yet you chooses to overlook it. Because you love him.
Tuesday, September 20, 2016
Waiting for someone
I used to think that waiting for someone you love to be ready is the ultimate form of flattery and the ideal declaration of love.
It’s how all epic love stories unfold and those who waited are finally rewarded for their patience when their lover comes back to them, then I had a very simple epiphany- the most epic love stories start when two people decide they like each other, they want to be with each other and they want to make the relationship work. Love is not always going to be easy and there will always be compromises, but having to wait for someone for months or years to finally decide to give you a chance should not be one of them.
Admit it, you don’t know what you are waiting for. Are you waiting for a declaration of love? Are you waiting for someone to change? Are you waiting for someone to recognize how loyal and patient you are? Are you waiting for a sign? Whatever it is you are waiting for should not keep you waiting if it’s truly worth it and you should always ask yourself if you are waiting for something that may never happen.
Waiting for someone means that you are okay with that person treating you like you are not important or that you don’t deserve their time.
Waiting for someone means that you don’t value yourself enough to realize that if someone cares enough, they will not keep you waiting or wondering. You are choosing to blind your own eyes from seeing the truth that will eventually blindside you.
Waiting for someone is not a sign of strength or loyalty, it’s a sign of denial and ignoring what you already know to be true. You will continue putting them on a pedestal they don’t even know they’re on, you will continue investing your all on nothing.
Because when you lose a person for whatever reason you are going to realize that you are on your own, and that you waited months or years for someone who didn’t end up fulfilling the prophecy you created for them. Sometimes patience is a waste of time.
Waiting for someone means that you are pouring salt on your own cuts and acting like it doesn’t burn. It means that you have agreed to be the person they “settle” for after exploring all other options. It means that you are surrendering yourself to rejection over and over again and acting like it’s the natural process of waiting.
Waiting for someone means you are pushing away people who are willing to give what you are waiting for and they are willing to give it to you immediately. It means you are telling the whole world that you do not deserve the respect and love that you give others, that you are willing to compromise the most precious parts of yourself for someone who doesn’t even try to give a little bit more.
As much as you deserve to be rewarded for your patience and as much as you deserve someone who comes back and finally claims you, this is not always the case. You shouldn’t set aside yourself for anyone else, because when you lose a person for whatever reason you are going to realize that you are on your own, and that you waited months or years for someone who didn’t end up fulfilling the prophecy you created for them. Sometimes patience is a waste of time.
If you must wait; wait to be chosen every day, wait to be reminded that you are special, wait to be loved in the way that you constantly love, wait to be taken seriously and wait for someone who doesn’t keep you waiting, because you know that you deserve better than waiting around for someone to make up their mind.
By Rania Naim
Matuto kang sumuko
Bakit ka magpaparamdam sa taong hindi marunong makaramdam. Huwag kang magpakatanga sa taong hindi marunong magpahalaga. Matuto kang sumuko at mang iwan, kung lagi ka namang sinasaktan. Imbis na magtanong ka ng "hindi pa ba sapat ?" Bakit hindi mo na lang kalimutan ang lahat? Kung alam mong binabalewala ka na, Tanggapin mong nagsasawa na siya, huwag kang magpadala sa salitang "Sorry, Mahal kita" dahil kung totoo yun, patunayan niya.
Monday, September 19, 2016
Don't love me
Don't love me if you can't accept my imperfections. I have issues about myself. I sometimes feel that I'm not worthy of anyone. Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough.
Don't love me if you just love me because of my appearance. Love is not just like that. Beauty fades.
Don't love me if you just want my body. My body is sacred.
Don't love me if you can't deal with my trust issues. I've been broken a lot of times. It's not easy.
Don't make me fall for you and you'll just leave me hanging. You're just giving me more reasons to doubt myself. It'll be hard for me to open up again.
Don't love me if you will not stay. Don't love me if you'll just cheat on me. Don't love me if you will just be like them. Don't love me...
Sunday, September 18, 2016
A girl who finally gave up
An open letter to the girl who's still trying:
Hey girl, you love him truly. Don't you? Isn't he your first thought in the morning and last in the night? You always check your phone to see if there is any call or text from him. You always want to spend time with him because that makes you happy. He is your first priority. Isn't he? But girl does he consider you this much special? Are you his first priority? No.
You are losing your sleep for him but he is sleeping well with a different other girl on his mind. You are waiting for his texts but he is probably texting that 'other girl'. Because you are not the one he wants. Maybe you are one of his wants. But do you deserve this? No.
You try to move on but again he comes and gives reply to your text which you sent him three days ago. He again talks to you and makes you feel special. He tells that he misses you and that makes you feel like to do everything for this guy. He says he doesn't like that you talk to other guys. That makes you feel like to leave everything and do everything just to keep him pleased.
He can control your emotions and only he can. How nice! But then he is gone again. No actually he is there but not for you. He is posting on social media and hanging around with his friends. And there you are, waiting for him to come. Don't worry he will text you again when he feels like.
But girl you don't deserve this. You deserve someone who makes you feel like you are the one. And loves the imperfect you perfectly. So forget about him. Because if you are not the girl he is giving his all to, then he should not be the boy whom you are still dedicated to.
Wednesday, September 7, 2016
Tuesday, September 6, 2016
Sunday, September 4, 2016
20 realizations on my 20's
1. Some people aren't meant to stay.
2. You work so hard, but your salary isn't enough.
3. You want to be successful in life, but you don't know how to achieve it.
4. You have many ideals.
5. You don't fall in love easily.
6. You get hurt too much.
7. People will expect a lot from you.
8. You learn to let go of people who hurt you.
9. It's okay to cry.
10. People will have something to say whether you do good or bad.
11. You want to travel a lot, but you are broke af.
12. Swag no longer attract you.
13. Intelligence does.
14. Being egoistic won't help.
15. Forgiving is better.
16. The pressure is on in all aspects of your life.
17. Flirting is no longer your thing.
18. It's okay to be alone sometimes, to understand yourself more.
19. You becomes less sociable.
20. Don't easily trust people.
Thursday, September 1, 2016
Tips para tumagal ang relasyon niyo
Sa isang relasyon dapat give and take. Dapat iniintindi mo yung partner mo, huwag puro ang sarili mo ang iniisip mo. Huwag mo siyang sasakalin, pero huwag naman yung tipong hindi mo na siya pakikialaman sa mga dapat at hindi niya dapat gawin. Sa pag-ibig kasi hindi naman kailangan puro sweet lang. Hindi naman kailangan na kayo nalang palagi ang magkasama 24/7. At syempre yung tiwala niyo sa isa't isa kailangan manatili sa puso at isip niyo. Na kahit malayo at hindi kayo madalas magkita o magkasama, hinding hindi kayo gagawa ng isang bagay na ikasisira ninyong dalawa.
Give them something to talk about
Life is too short to care what people say or think about you. So go, do what makes you happy and give them something to talk about.
Just because
Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
Tuesday, August 30, 2016
Remember
Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve. As you grow wiser you will start to realize that how you feel about someone has nothing to do with how they decide to treat you. Sometimes you have to teach people how to treat you when you are not getting treated properly. Stop letting people dictate to you what they feel like you deserve. Stop being so passive with people who are still openly disrespecting you like you aren't even around. If your happiness mattered, they would have handled the relationship a lot differently. Stop accepting any kind of treatment from people just because you have feelings for them. It's time to get things in your life back in perspective again.
- IG@woodtheinspiration
Know Your Worth
A confident woman doesn't beg a man to stay, cry if they don't or need to tear down other women to be loved.
She knows her value.
When the person she is meant to be with finds her, that person will know it also. He won't be confused by it. He will fight for her because without her he feels incomplete. She will always be foremost in his mind above anyone else. She doesn't have to scheme to keep or entice him. She is okay walking away from him because she doesn't want to be seen as a choice or a woman that has some potential. She demands to be seen as "the one."
To settle for anything less than that is an admission of insecurity and lack of self love.
Monday, August 22, 2016
How to let go of someone you love
1. Delete and throw away every single thing that will remind you of that person.
Every picture, gift, conversation and even contact number. You must block his/her social media accounts. It's not an act of bitterness; it's an act of helping yourself out. It will help you to stop yourself from checking him every time and make you realize that it's all over. That you're all alone right now. It will be the first and hardest step of letting go because you got used to do all these things before. There will be times that you'll get tempted to reread and reminisce but in order to forget, you must delete. Learn to live and be happy again without that person. Reformat your whole system, but this time, without his/her presence.
2. Be stronger than your emotions
Everything starts in the mind. Don't let things around you influence you to dwell in the past. Empty your mind. Don't let your emotions control your day. Take responsibility. Start your day with a little motivation that you won't think of him or her for the rest of your day. If you decided to move on, make a plan and then stick to it every single time. Divert your attention to things that won't remind you of her/him. Create and find your own source of happiness. Make yourself busy and when you're alone, pray. It can help you a lot. There's no trick in moving on, but if you learn how to be stronger and control your emotions, you'll get over it sooner than you thought.
3. Accept
We all know that it's an act of unloading all your emotional baggage that you're carrying all this time. But it's not an easy process to forget and accept everything, because it's the most painful stage of healing and it doesn't happen overnight. So, give yourself time to grieve and feel your feelings. Embrace the pain. Remember, if you can fall in love for someone who's completely wrong for you, imagine how hard you can fall for someone who is perfect for you. Maybe this person didn't love or treat you as you deserved, but someone else will. Use the situation as a learning experience for you. You still have a lot to learn about life and yourself. Stop regretting, asking questions and making thoughts, it will just hinder you from moving on. You're all alone and it's the perfect time to rebuild yourself. Reconnect with the people around you. Create new memories. Surround yourself with positivity. Accept the fact that everything has been already over. You can't fix it anymore. You'll never be the same as before, but it's okay. Forgive him. Forgive yourself and keep moving.
4. Know that you will feel the same pain every night if you still choose to be alone and if you don't help yourself to move on
Don't be afraid to continue things that you do even if it can remind you of him or her. Don't be afraid to listen to your favorite music even though you can hear him/her singing it in front of you. The world won't adjust just because he or she left you. Life won't stop just because you're hurt. Get used to the pain and live by yourself again like what you're doing before he/she came into your life, as if he/she never existed. It's okay to cry, but don't make it last for a lifetime. Don't dwell too much on the past because you are not living there anymore. Forgive yourself and accept everything.
Remember, life is a race and it's okay to rest for a while, but in order to get into the finish line, you must stand up and start to run again. Always look on the brighter side of every situation. Get ready because greater things are coming your way.
Be free. Run. Explore, let go.
Thursday, August 18, 2016
English language
Fluency in the English language isn't the sole basis of intelligence, because we have multiple intelligences. Just because you aren't good at it that doesn't mean you are dumb. It might not be a requirement, but being good at it is a big advantage.
Wednesday, August 17, 2016
Not worth it
Sometimes no matter how bad people treat me, I just ignore it and walk away. It's not that I'm coward, it's because it's not worth it. I always choose my battles.
Don't be afraid
Surround yourself with people who are smarter than you. And don't be afraid to be the dumbest one in the room. Because that gives you the most potential to learn.
Do whatever you want
When you're thin people be like, "Oh, you're so thin, you need to gain a little weight".
When you gained weight, "Oh, you gained weight, tone it down a bit".
Society is so fucked up. Do whatever you want.
Tuesday, August 16, 2016
Being too kind
Sometimes, being too kind isn't a good idea. People will tend to abuse and take advantage of you. It's better to unleash our inner psycho sometimes. 🙄
Make your circle small
The older you get, the easier it is for you to cut unnecessary people in your life. Make your circle small. I'd still prefer to have one or two friends who will surely be there on my burial than to be in a circle of friends who are just there when they can still get something from you.
You will never be alone
You will never be alone. Even if you lost everything and everyone have left, you will always have God. He will never leave. He is right there in your heart.
And if it happens that you dont know him and never believed in him, the reason why you lost everyone is for you to have no choice but to turn to Him. That is how He works. That is God's way.
Sometimes it's so hard to understand but He always works for our goodness, for us to be happy, for us to have better lives.
Those people who left, He removed them on purpose because they should not be part of your life. You should live for yourself now, not for others. He removed them so they could stop hurting you, so you could start healing yourself. He removed them because they won't help you grow. They will only keep on pulling you down. He removed them because God knows that you're strong enough to stand on your own, and important people in your life left for good for you to be able to learn, to be brave and to be strong to face the trials that are coming your way. Yes, He removed them all for you. They had no choice but to leave because He says so. You should forgive them.
Someday you will be able to understand it. Maybe not now, not tomorrow but someday you will. And if you ever find yourself looking for answers, talk to Him. He will answer you. You'll see.
Sunday, August 14, 2016
Never wait
Never wait around for a boy, he’ll come to you. Sometimes you need to be busy too, just to let him know that the sun doesn’t rise and shine over him.
Saturday, August 13, 2016
What if he falls for someone else?
The moment I let him explore things outside our own little world I knew right there and then, situation like that or even more may follow. And if you'd ask me if I'm scared of the thought, no, I was way beyond being scared. But I love him freely and locking him up just for myself is complete selfishness. And I don't want that. The world has so much to offer and if I let him grab the opportunities, he'll get what he truly deserves. I know, he'll do best and I want him to understand that I won't pull him away from his dreams. I want him to grow independent. We need to grow apart sometimes. And if letting him grow means walking in temptations, then I'll take the risk. After all, relationship is about trust. And I trust the love he has for me. I trust that it will always be me over any temptations.
Friday, August 12, 2016
Breathe and allow things to pass
You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing everything with logic; true power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you; breathe and allow things to pass. Always remember as cliche as it is that you can not please everybody.
Don't date an overthinker
Don't date an overthinker. She'll spend days analyzing your facial expressions when you speak, and night deciphering what the period placement in your text message meant. She'll agonize for hours over why you didn't say hello to her at breakfast, and start to create unrealistic scenarios in her head that you decided you no longer liked her. Don't date her, because otherwise she'll suffocate you with her care. She'll always want to ask you if you're okay and constantly say that she loves you just to hear you say it back to her. And she'll cry, oh lord, will she cry. She'll cry over the way you looked at that girl, or the way your eyes stopped lighting up at her name. She'll cry when you start kissing her like it's your job and touching her like it's a habit. She'll even overthink the fact that maybe she's just overthinking. That you do still love her, that all these worries might actually just be in her head. And so when you do leave, she'll still wake up nights six months from now replaying the memories over in her head like a jukebox saying "where did i go wrong?" or "what did i do this time?". Do not date an overthinker. Do not do it unless you plan on marrying her.
People who understands
I like people who understands. The type who aren't quick to judge. You can vent to them, and labeling you will be the last on their mind. They don't believe rumors because they know there are two sides to every story. They give you a chance before they judge you. They get to know who you really are, then have an opinion. I like those type of people.
Thursday, August 11, 2016
She is a paradox
She is faithful and yet detached. She is committed and yet relaxed. She loves everyone, and yet no one. She is sociable but also a loner. She is gentle and yet tough. She is passionate but can also be platonic. In short, she is predictable in her unpredictability.
Makuntento ka
Minsan may mga bagay na ginugusto natin ngunit di natin makuha, may mga bagay na hindi hinahangad ngunit bigla na lang dumarating. Ganyan talaga minsan ang buhay di natin maintindihan kaya dapat marunong kang makuntento sa kung anong inilaan sayo at wag mong hangarin ang inilaan para sa ibang tao.
Wednesday, August 10, 2016
Desperate
Have respect for people's relationships. It's embarrassing that you're that desperate, you'd interfere with someone's lovelife.
The difference between mature and immature relationship
Mature couples don't “fall in love,” they step into it. Love isn't something you fall for; it's something you rise for.
Falling denotes lowering oneself, dropping down and being stuck somewhere lower than where you started. You have to get up from falling.
Love isn't like that — at least not with people who are doing it right. Immature couples fall; mature couples coast. Because love is either a passing game, or it's forever. Love is either wrong, or it's right. A couple is either mature or immature.
How do you know? How can you tell if your relationship is in it for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone predicted behind your love-obsessed back?
First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. There are no passionate fights with passionate make-up sex. There's no obsessive calling, texting or worrying.
There's no real drama. Because drama is for kids. Drama is for people who don't know how to have a relationship — who live by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and obsessive.
Love is easy. It's the easiest thing you've ever done. It's the calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you've ever worn. It's something that happens naturally; it doesn't need to be fought for day in and day out.
When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there's no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that's peace of mind. A peace of mind you've never had before.. the kind that humbles and revives you.
A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind; immature ones drown in it.
Immature relationships ask questions; mature relationships answer them
Immature relationships are all about doubts. Does he love me? Is she cheating on me? Will we be together in two months?
Mature couples don't need to ask questions. They already know the answers, and they don't need reassurance from their partners.
They are comfortable and secure and free of doubt because mature love isn't about all those small questions, but a comfort in knowing the big one is answered.
Immature relationships leave you wanting something; mature relationships give you what you need
There's a void in immature relationships, an apparent absence and incessant worry that something's missing.
It eats away at you when you go to sleep or leave each other for just a few hours. It burns dimly when you're together, but you wave it off with sex and constant chatter.
Mature relationships have no void. There are no empty spaces or tiny cracks. There is never a feeling that something has been taken away or is leaving with the other person.
The love between the two mature people fills every crack in the fiber of their being they didn't know they had.
Immature relationships are striving to be one complete person; mature relationships are okay being two
Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete people. They are two halves trying to make one whole.
They are two people looking for something that can't be found in another person. They dominate each other, force themselves together and make one flawed mesh of a human.
Mature couples never strive to be one. They are two individual people looking to make two better people. The love between the two of them isn't about making both of them whole again, but more individual.
It's about pushing each other to pursue their passions, interests and become the best person possible.
Immature relationships lose their drive; mature relationships make you more motivated
We all get wrapped up in love. It's easy to spend days in bed and weekends in the hazy world of blankets and kisses.
But eventually, that smothering love is replaced with motivated love — a type of love that comes when you want to make a life with someone and work hard to get that life. Immature couples never get to this.
They never feel that motivation to leave each other only to come back more successful and more determined to make a life for the two of them.
Immature relationships fight over text messages; mature relationships are always face-to-face
Fighting is natural; texting is not. Mature couples do not spend their days bickering over a screen.
When they have something to work out, they do it face to face — where the meanings can't be misconstrued by emojis and auto correct. Immature couples fuel their relationship with incessant bickering and lengthy messages.
Immature couples see long texts as evidence of their “relationship” and find comfort in spending hours hiding behind their phones. They argue just to argue; mature couples fight for their future.
Immature relationships are about trying to find yourself; mature relationships already know themselves
Relationships are only for two complete people looking for companionship, yet many incomplete people look for it to complete them. This is when mature relationships and immature ones split.
You can't have a healthy relationship with two unhealthy people. When you're trying to use someone to complete you, you're creating an incomplete relationship.
Immature relationships are threatened by everyone else; mature relationships enjoy meeting other people
There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to each person and surprises behind closed doors.
Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by strangers and past lovers. They are confident in their love and their partner's love.
Immature couples find threats in everyone. They're delusional and paranoid because their love is superficial. They do not have a strong enough foundation to effortlessly glide past all the distractions and threats.
Immature relationships live by preconceived timelines; mature relationships let everything happen naturally
There's no right or wrong time to move in together. There's no specific year to get married and definitely not a timeline for your life together.
When you're in love, things happen at their own pace. You feel things, and you follow your heart.
Immature couples, however, don't have those feelings, those instincts and those effortless moments. They make up rules and guidelines and assume time is the only thing that makes or breaks their relationship.
Immature relationships judge you on your past; mature relationships help you carry it
We all have a past, and in many cases, one we're not proud of. We can't help what happened to people before we knew them. All that matters is how they are now. Immature couples, however, refuse to see beyond the past.
Mature couples don't just accept one another’s pasts but want to help heal the wounds. They look beyond the mistakes and the flaws toward the beauty in the future together.
By Lauren Martin
Ansatsu Kyoushitsu Season2 OP
You're all I think about,
Starting not to see anything else
I'll win your heart for sure (I swear )
Me, not cool? Oh, that old tale!
I've spared no effort since then,
Should be over my problems by now
I'm brimming with confidence: I can do it
And just when I get warmed up...
Yeah, I get knocked down like this every time;
Your scathing, serious voice cuts me!
Thousands. Tens of thousands of times, i've given form to my feelings.
Driven them in, thrown them in -- but all you do is run!
QUESTION QUESTION: What,
QUESTION QUESTION: On Earth,
QUESTION QUESTION: Did I even know about you?
QUESTION QUESTION: Why,
QUESTION QUESTION: Do you feel,
QUESTION QUESTION: So close yet so far?
Tao nga naman
Minsan kung sino pa yung mga taong may ayaw sayo sila pa yung habol ng habol sayo. Binabantayan bawat pagkilos mo. Naghihintay ng pwedeng ikasira mo.
Monday, August 8, 2016
Obsession
I have an obsession with quotes because other people are so much better at putting my feelings into words than I am.
Seems legit
So let me get this straight, you are over your ex and happy. Yet you can't stop talking shit about him and his new girl? Seems legit. Your ass must be jealous of all the shit that comes out of your mouth.
Lame
Dear crazy ex,
Please understand that while you are talking shits and not letting go of your past, we laugh at how lame you are.
Sunday, August 7, 2016
How to love a sad girl
Kiss her forehead. Kiss her eyes. Kiss her nose and the birthmarks on her skin and all the places she does not love. Kiss her knuckles and her fingers and remind her to breathe. She needs that. All of it. If she cries, your first question must be whether she wants you or not. Some days she’ll need you to crush her boundaries completely and pull her so close that her heart can beat alongside yours. And some days she’ll need you to let her drown a little bit on her own. But you have to come back for her, after. Always come back. Do not yell at her. If you’re angry, write it down or leave for a while to cool off and then have a level-toned argument with her. Do not yell. Do not ever yell. Tell her you will be at her funeral and when she asks how you can be so sure you’ll outlive her, tell her you’re not sure of that at all. Tell her that even if you die tomorrow, you will be at her funeral. Do not ask her why she is sad. She will tell you. If you truly love her and if she knows that, she will tell you. Open her curtains. She'll cringe and groan and make a scene, but she needs the light. She doesn’t know how to make her own sunshine, so you’ve got to give her some. Let her tell you about things. Let her ramble on about a poet she loves or why she hates a certain singer. Let her bitch about her workday or describe how much she loves her sister. If you don’t let her talk to you, she will never let you know her. Learn how to identify whether her eyes are stormy or calm. Learn her tones of voice and how to tell if she’s really okay or if she just doesn’t want you to worry. Learn her tells and her soft spots and love every last one. Take her to places, coffee shops, antique stores, city streets and your grandma’s house. She wants to see the world, and she wants to see it with you. Kiss her toes. Kiss her shoulders and place butterfly kisses on her cheeks. Touch her hair and tell her all the things there are to love about her. Remind her to scream if she needs to. She needs that. All of it.
Yeah I'm fine
You think you’re doing okay and then suddenly it’s a night time and you’re alone and you’re not really sure how to distract yourself anymore.
No one is worth begging for
"Never beg for love. Never beg someone to love you back or be with you when you want to. Never beg for someone’s time, commitment, affection and attention. Never beg someone to stay with you when you need him the most. Because in the first place, if he loves you that much, he won’t leave you and let go of your hand. He will never let you beg for his presence and love because he will give it to you with open arms. Don’t beg, it’s demeaning and degrading. Remember, if you have to beg, he’s not worth it. No one is worth begging for."
- E.J. Cenita (baekebyan)
Let him go
I think you need to just close the fucking chapter on him even if it was long enough to be a fucking novel itself. You’ve cried over this boy so many times before, when are you going to put yourself first? When are you going to realize this is not what you deserve? When you were little would you have ever wished this for yourself? Why are you putting yourself through this? You are so goddamn important and he is a fucking idiot who didn’t deserve to know you the way he did. Let him go, let him go, let him go. There is nothing more you can do.
- Oh Inspiring Stuff
Friday, August 5, 2016
Everyone has a choice
"Girls who don't wear make up are more beautiful". False. Just because a girl wears make up that doesn't mean she doesn't love her natural beauty. She loves herself that's why she wants to be more confident and feel good about herself. Others are so passionate about it because it is also an art. Just because it's your preference not to apply make up, that doesn't give you the right to drag other girls who do it. Everyone has a choice.
Words by: Oh Inspiring Stuff
Dear Bae
I never thought that you would be a huge part of my life. I never expected you’ll have a big role to play in it, to be one of the reasons why I live right now. You’re the person who I can’t lose, someone I can’t bear to live without because, it’s like half of my life will be taken away from me too. Thank you for the seconds, days and months you made me happy. I can’t deny the fact that you’re one of the primary sources of my happiness. For me, I am both lucky and blessed because God gave me you. I wasn’t asking for a person to enter my life again, but He gave me you because he knew it’s you who will make my life better.. and you did. You made everything better and easier, you changed me. You made me become a better person, you made me strong and filled me with happiness. Thank you for entering my life and for loving me. You have no idea how much of an impact you did when you entered my life. You radiated joy and love, which transformed me. So, please. Don’t ever let go, don’t leave me, don’t fall in love with another girl. I won’t bear the pain, you mean the world so much to me.
Live for yourself first
Do not allow him to consume you. If he does not call, go to sleep. If he does not message, put your phone away and have a fantastic day anyway. If he acts distant when you are with him and refuses to tell you what is wrong, don’t wait for him, go home and do something you love. If he tries to insinuate you do not need your friends now that you have him, spend more time with your friends. If he tries to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore him completely.
If he plays with your feelings constantly, walk away from him. If he acts like your body is his entitlement when you are not ready, walk away from him. If he says terrible, unforgivable things and threatens to leave you after every argument, walk away from him. If he forbids you from doing anything you love, walk away from him. If he claims ownership of your accomplishments, walk away from him. If he demeans you or disrespects your being a girl and refuses to stop when you tell him it hurts, walk away from him.
I cannot stress this enough, you live for yourself first. He is a secondary character in the story of your life. Do not allow him to turn you into a secondary character in your own book.
Let's talk
Let's talk about how hard it is to open up to someone about being sad for no reason. Let's talk about how hard it is to explain to your friends and family that you have this heavy feeling in your chest for no reason. Let's talk about how hard it is to understand why you’re having a panic attack while just taking a walk back home. Let's talk about how hard it is to understand your own self and how scary it is to feel like the whole world is falling on your shoulders and you have no idea why.
Keep some for yourself
Keep some for yourself.
1. wash your hair. It’s been 1 week since you’ve gotten out of bed. you’re crying too hard for a boy who doesn’t know that when you were born the doctors found stars in your bloodstream.
2. cheap liquor that tastes like peaches and bleach numbs the pain but it leaves you throwing up and I’m not going to hold your hair back so you can drink him down but he’ll come back up and burn your throat all over again.
3. He’s not worth the black outs and shaky hands. Eat something. He’s just a boy who pulled you in too deep. You don’t need him to save you. Get yourself out.
4. Latch your heart shut. save the key for a boy who wouldn’t mind picking the lock and make him give it back when he leaves, you are a hurricane, not a stitched up chest that he can rip open and let bleed every time he’s bored of misses your voice.
5. Wear the dress you wore on your first date with him every night this week. Make new memories in it so you don’t see him every time you open your closet. Leave it smelling like new boys wrapped around you and pretty girls kissing your cheek with red lipstick and cigarettes and city lights instead of him. You don’t fucking need him.
6. A hot bubble bath, tea, chocolate, a blank sheet of paper and paint can fix things for a night. I hope your bedroom becomes an art gallery. I hope you paint the walls and not your skin.
7. I still have love letters from my first boyfriend in the attic. You might not forget him but you sure as hell won’t always miss him. I won’t let you.
8. Sleep on the floor when your bed feels too empty without him. I’ll bring you extra pillows and blankets.
9. I’m sure he’s heart broken over you.
10. No, she’s not prettier than you baby girl, she’s nothing special.
11. I raised you to be the ocean not pools of blood on your sleeves.
12. He is not the same person you fell in love with. He doesn’t need your voice to fall asleep anymore and that’s okay. You’re in love with a stranger now. You don’t know him. He’s not the boy you kissed last weekend. So let him go. You’re not letting go of the boy you fell asleep with 3 months ago. You’re letting go of someone who doesn’t care if you fall asleep crying or not.
13. Don’t let him wipe away your tears. His fingers are razorblades and your cheeks will drip with blood. Don’t let him turn your freckles red.
14. You are the world. He’s lucky that you let him live in you for so long but he hasn’t been paying rent. Kick him out. He doesn’t deserve you.
15. You will find someone else to give yourself to, but not all of you, keep some for yourself.
Monday, July 25, 2016
Evil Laugh
You don't hurt my feelings and you damn sure don't scare me. You do make me laugh though. Hate me all you want but I'M NOT GOING ANYWHERE! The sooner you accept it, the easier things will be.
Saan?
Saan ko ilulugar ang sarili ko sa mundong walang ibang nakita kundi ang pagkakamali ng bawat isa?
When love hits you
No matter how much it hurts, you can't stop love. To not love is more painful than losing love.
Midnight thoughts
I know I'm not the prettiest nor the sexiest girl you'll ever see. I'm not the sweetest. Don't have the money to buy you some gifts. Don't have big boobs or big ass. I've got a lot of insecurities. I got trust issues. I overthink things. Always. I can say I'm not the ideal girl that a guy would want. But I am trying my best-est just to make you happy. All I can offer you is my loyalty and faithfulness. My time. My endless love. I can't give you the whole world. But i can give you my world.
He doesn't care
Get over him and move on. Let go of him and all the baggage you keep dragging around. The bitterness makes you look so pathetic. There is a reason he's your ex. You let him go so you got what you wanted. Go find yourself. If you happen to be looking at this then you know its true and this is all about you.
An advice for the young
In love this principle applies:
Do not chase people. This makes you lose value and dignity. Just work on being better. You will always attract what you are and when the right person comes to you the person stays and does not leave. Those who were chased usually do not stay for good.
Friday, July 22, 2016
Dear self
If you keep going backwards with the same people that God has intentionally removed from your life, you will continue to stay stuck. There is no joy in being confused and unhappy. Get rid of old bad habits and leave them where they belong. What is meant for you will be yours. Learn to let go. Dysfunction isn't love.
Monday, July 18, 2016
Close-minded people sucks
Don't waste your time with explanations, people only hear what they want to hear.
Stay quiet
When you encounter a difficulty, it is better to stay quiet, study the situation, ask for advice and deal with the situation. This way you learn and become wiser. Do not keep on complaining.
Somebody says: "Constant complaining are tools people use to announce to all that they are not in control." It’s not a gift. It’s a weakness.
People change
Life doesn't change, but people do. So learn to accept that not everybody is who you thought you knew.
Dear Girls
Dear girls, wag kayo humanap ng lalake na gagawin kayong main priority. Pag mature na ang lalake, ang pinapriority nyan ay ang inyong future, dreams at goals na kasama ka, hindi ikaw lang. At hindi ikaw ang main priority ng mature na lalake. Dahil kapag ikaw ang main priority nyan ikaw lang lagi ang uunahin nya at walang mangyayari sa inyong dalawa. Yang pagkamalandutay mo ilagay mo sa lugar at wag maniwala sa mga post post na yan sa fb tungkol sa relationship goals. Dahil pakitang tao lang yan at bullshit lang yan, walang patutunguhan sa social media, malaking kalokohan yan. Ang gawin nyo ay prioritize nyo ang life, like dreams, goals, ambitions, wag ang lalake. Ang lovelife ay makakapag antay, magpractice ka muna mag laba ng panty bago lumandi.
Kung gusto mo ng lalake na tatagal sayo, humanap ka ng lalakeng ambisyoso. Then suportahan mo sya instead na bigyan ng sakit sa ulo dahil kulang ka sa pansin , then mag ambisyon ka rin upang mayroon din kayong magandang i topic hindi yong topic na lang lage anong kakainin nyo or saan kayo gala.
Wednesday, July 13, 2016
Tuesday, July 12, 2016
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Saturday, July 9, 2016
Don't try to change him
Whatever happens, please don't try to change him. If he loves you enough, he'll be willing to compromise some things, but please never try to change him. Accept him completely for who he is. That means accepting his fears, his vices, his past, and his tendency to forget to text you about where he is and what he's doing. Just remember that you are not perfect, too. You have your flaws yet there he is, loving you just as you are. And if you're lucky enough, he might start to change himself for the better, without you forcing it.
Sunday, March 6, 2016
Be authentic.
Sunday, February 28, 2016
Don't take it personally
A girl
Sunday, February 14, 2016
Why do people act crazy when they fall in love?
It's insecurity, and it's something to get passed if you want to have successful relationships. It's not easy, and guys do it too, just in a different way. Consciously or subconsciously you're taking every last sentence and action and deciding if this means he's losing interest in you. This can quickly become a vicious cycle that ends with him actually losing interest in you, so be careful.
To change it, stop and think why you're angry, then decide if getting angry at him for his actions is actually solving anything. If him not saying 'Goodnight' really is a sign that he's losing interest, what do you gain by getting angry at him? You might fix a symptom, and that's it.
The fear of losing their love makes a guy jealous; while it makes a girl emotionally clingy. So, what are you afraid about? When in a relationship if one starts acting crazy it is because that person is afraid that her boyfriend no longer finds her lovable. The thoughts that go in one's mind are enough to increase the 'craziness' level to a notch higher than possible. You want an assurance that the person is still in love with you; you want to make sure that he isn't backing off now. You are afraid what will happen to you if the person leaves you.
Why? Why do we act like that? Does everyone act that way? No, not everyone acts that way. Only those who think their boyfriend deserves someone more than them! Stop making yourself small, and truly believe that you and him are best for each other; and your relation will last. Yes, breakups happen, but to constantly live in that fear is a torture. You will end up suffocating your relationship. Believe that you are the one for him.
Next, get in the habit of actually just talking about things. There is no greater person to talk about your problems in your relationship than with your partner. Realize that chances are, everything is fine, and if it's not, a fight won't solve anything. If he is feeling like there's problems in the relationship, he's more likely to tell you if you bring it up in non-confrontational way. It's hard enough talking about this stuff, believe me. It's even harder when you're worried about getting your head bitten off.
Of course you need to listen, it's something that a lot of human being forgets. One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say. Give him a chance to talk. You don't have to immediately respond to things. If he's constantly saying you are misunderstanding what he says, then reformulate what he says and repeat it back to see if you are correct. And when fights happen (and they will), don't fight dirty (don't throw insults, say hurtful things, ect).
Honestly, a good start would be just telling and being open about what you feel. Tell him you recognize you're being crazy, that you don't like it, and you want to change. You're not telling him anything he doesn't already know, and he's going to feel a lot better if he can actually talk to you about it. Give him a chance to talk, listen and don't get defensive. Save the explanations and interjections until the end. Acknowledge what you think is reasonable, explain (but don't over explain) what you don't think is reasonable. At best you solve problems before they become huge. At a minimum, you aren't blindsided by huge problems that aren't fixable. It will reduce your insecurity too.
Finally, find something apart from your boyfriend to keep you busy. Like going out with friends, reading books, writing a blog or anything that will keep you away from thinking about him. When you have an interest, then you will have less time to miss your boyfriend. You will appreciate your time with him better. As your personal appreciation will increase, your need for constant attention from him will balance out. He will appreciate and respect you more too. Besides keeping yourself a little bit mysterious will make you more interesting.
Based on my experience doing this helps me to be quite patient and less jealous because, with the time, I have become mature and very well understood that if he sometimes does not call me back, say Goodnight or forget something, it's not because he doesn't love me much or care about me. It's just that he knows I am hers and will always be with him. So he gets less easy. You just need to realise that he really loves you even if he misses out some things. We all love our boyfriend and we should always remember that they love us even more. Trusting our partner would always be a matter in our relationships.
There is still hope for us. Time will heal everything. Your brain will eventually come back to its normal function in due time. How long? Well, that's an individual thing. It could take anything from a few weeks to several months. But you don't have to feel at the mercy of this. And please chill about being emotionally sensitive, we are humans, we are emotional and sensitive. Love is being emotionally sensitive and being emotionally sensitive (not that over sensitive) means that you care. It's Normal.
To the man I love the most
10 Myths about Introverts by Carl King
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 : Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 : Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 : Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 : Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 : Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 : Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists.
They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 : Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 : Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 : Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
About ‘ ‘ The Myths” I wrote this list in late-2008. Around that time, I was lucky enough to discover a book called, The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World, by Marti Laney, Psy.D. It felt like someone had written an encyclopedia entry on a rare race of people to which I belong. Not only had it explained many of my eccentricities, it helped me to redefine my entire life in a new and productive context.
Sure, anyone who knows me would say, “Duh! Why did it take you so long to realize you’re an Introvert?” It’s not that simple. The problem is that labeling someone as an Introvert is a very shallow assessment, full of common misconceptions. It’s more complex than that.
A section of Laney’s book (page 71 through page 75) maps out the human brain and explains how neuro-transmitters follow different dominant paths in the nervous systems of Introverts and Extroverts. If the science behind the book is correct, it turns out that Introverts are people who are over-sensitive to Dopamine, so too much external stimulation overdoses and exhausts them. Conversely, Extroverts can’t get enough Dopamine, and they require Adrenaline for their brains to create it. Extroverts also have a shorter pathway and less blood-flow to the brain. The messages of an Extrovert’s nervous system mostly bypass the Broca’s area in the frontal lobe, which is where a large portion of contemplation takes place.
Unfortunately, according to the book, only about 25% of people are Introverts. There are even fewer that are as extreme as I am. This leads to a lot of misunderstandings, since society doesn’t have very much experience with my people. (I love being able to say that.) So the 10 Myths are a few common misconceptions about Introverts (not taken directly from the book, but based on my own life experience).