Remember

Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve. As you grow wiser you will start to realize that how you feel about someone has nothing to do with how they decide to treat you. Sometimes you have to teach people how to treat you when you are not getting treated properly. Stop letting people dictate to you what they feel like you deserve. Stop being so passive with people who are still openly disrespecting you like you aren't even around. If your happiness mattered, they would have handled the relationship a lot differently. Stop accepting any kind of treatment from people just because you have feelings for them. It's time to get things in your life back in perspective again.

- IG@woodtheinspiration

Know Your Worth

A confident woman doesn't beg a man to stay, cry if they don't or need to tear down other women to be loved.

She knows her value.

When the person she is meant to be with finds her, that person will know it also. He won't be confused by it. He will fight for her because without her he feels incomplete. She will always be foremost in his mind above anyone else. She doesn't have to scheme to keep or entice him. She is okay walking away from him because she doesn't want to be seen as a choice or a woman that has some potential. She demands to be seen as "the one."

To settle for anything less than that is an admission of insecurity and lack of self love.

How to let go of someone you love

1. Delete and throw away every single thing that will remind you of that person.

Every picture, gift, conversation and even contact number. You must block his/her social media accounts. It's not an act of bitterness; it's an act of helping yourself out. It will help you to stop yourself from checking him every time and make you realize that it's all over. That you're all alone right now. It will be the first and hardest step of letting go because you got used to do all these things before. There will be times that you'll get tempted to reread and reminisce but in order to forget, you must delete. Learn to live and be happy again without that person. Reformat your whole system, but this time, without his/her presence.

2. Be stronger than your emotions

Everything starts in the mind. Don't let things around you influence you to dwell in the past. Empty your mind. Don't let your emotions control your day. Take responsibility. Start your day with a little motivation that you won't think of him or her for the rest of your day. If you decided to move on, make a plan and then stick to it every single time. Divert your attention to things that won't remind you of her/him. Create and find your own source of happiness. Make yourself busy and when you're alone, pray. It can help you a lot. There's no trick in moving on, but if you learn how to be stronger and control your emotions, you'll get over it sooner than you thought.

3. Accept

We all know that it's an act of unloading all your emotional baggage that you're carrying all this time. But it's not an easy process to forget and accept everything, because it's the most painful stage of healing and it doesn't happen overnight. So, give yourself time to grieve and feel your feelings. Embrace the pain. Remember, if you can fall in love for someone who's completely wrong for you, imagine how hard you can fall for someone who is perfect for you. Maybe this person didn't love or treat you as you deserved, but someone else will. Use the situation as a learning experience for you. You still have a lot to learn about life and yourself. Stop regretting, asking questions and making thoughts, it will just hinder you from moving on. You're all alone and it's the perfect time to rebuild yourself. Reconnect with the people around you. Create new memories. Surround yourself with positivity. Accept the fact that everything has been already over. You can't fix it anymore. You'll never be the same as before, but it's okay. Forgive him. Forgive yourself and keep moving.

4. Know that you will feel the same pain every night if you still choose to be alone and if you don't help yourself to move on

Don't be afraid to continue things that you do even if it can remind you of him or her. Don't be afraid to listen to your favorite music even though you can hear him/her singing it in front of you. The world won't adjust just because he or she left you. Life won't stop just because you're hurt. Get used to the pain and live by yourself again like what you're doing before he/she came into your life, as if he/she never existed. It's okay to cry, but don't make it last for a lifetime. Don't dwell too much on the past because you are not living there anymore. Forgive yourself and accept everything.

Remember, life is a race and it's okay to rest for a while, but in order to get into the finish line, you must stand up and start to run again. Always look on the brighter side of every situation. Get ready because greater things are coming your way.

Be free. Run. Explore, let go.

English language

Fluency in the English language isn't the sole basis of intelligence, because we have multiple intelligences. Just because you aren't good at it that doesn't mean you are dumb. It might not be a requirement, but being good at it is a big advantage.

Not worth it

Sometimes no matter how bad people treat me, I just ignore it and walk away. It's not that I'm coward, it's because it's not worth it. I always choose my battles.

Don't be afraid

Surround yourself with people who are smarter than you. And don't be afraid to be the dumbest one in the room. Because that gives you the most potential to learn.

Do whatever you want

When you're thin people be like, "Oh, you're so thin, you need to gain a little weight".

When you gained weight, "Oh, you gained weight, tone it down a bit".

Society is so fucked up. Do whatever you want.

Being too kind

Sometimes, being too kind isn't a good idea. People will tend to abuse and take advantage of you. It's better to unleash our inner psycho sometimes. 🙄

Make your circle small

The older you get, the easier it is for  you to cut unnecessary people in your life. Make your circle small. I'd still prefer to have one or two friends who will surely be there on my burial than to be in a circle of friends who are just there when they can still get something from you.

You will never be alone

You will never be alone. Even if you lost everything and everyone have left, you will always have God. He will never leave. He is right there in your heart.

And if it happens that you dont know him and never believed in him, the reason why you lost everyone is for you to have no choice but to turn to Him.  That is how He works. That is God's way.

Sometimes it's so hard to understand but He always works for our goodness, for us to be happy, for us to have better lives.

Those people who left, He removed them on purpose because they should not be part of your life. You should live for yourself now, not for others. He removed them so they could stop hurting you, so you could start healing yourself. He removed them because they won't help you grow. They will only keep on pulling you down. He removed them because God knows that you're strong enough to stand on your own, and important people in your life left for good for you to be able to learn, to be brave and to be strong to face the trials that are coming your way. Yes, He removed them all for you. They had no choice but to leave because He says so. You should forgive them.

Someday you will be able to understand it. Maybe not now, not tomorrow but someday you will. And if you ever find yourself looking for answers, talk to Him. He will answer you. You'll see.

Life advice

Stay strong. Life is surreal. It can consume you.

Never wait

Never wait around for a boy, he’ll come to you. Sometimes you need to be busy too, just to let him know that the sun doesn’t rise and shine over him.

What if he falls for someone else?

The moment I let him explore things outside our own little world I knew right there and then, situation like that or even more may follow. And if you'd ask me if I'm scared of the thought, no, I was way beyond being scared. But I love him freely and locking him up just for myself is complete selfishness. And I don't want that. The world has so much to offer and if I let him grab the opportunities, he'll get what he truly deserves. I know, he'll do best and I want him to understand that I won't pull him away from his dreams. I want him to grow independent. We need to grow  apart sometimes. And if letting him grow means walking in temptations, then I'll take the risk. After all, relationship is about trust. And I trust the love he has for me. I trust that it will always be me over any temptations.

Breathe and allow things to pass

You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing everything with logic; true power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you; breathe and allow things to pass. Always remember as cliche as it is that you can not please everybody.

Don't date an overthinker

Don't date an overthinker. She'll spend days analyzing your facial expressions when you speak, and night deciphering what the period placement in your text message meant. She'll agonize for hours over why you didn't say hello to her at breakfast, and start to create unrealistic scenarios in her head that you decided you no longer liked her. Don't date her, because otherwise she'll suffocate you with her care. She'll always want to ask you if you're okay and constantly say that she loves you just to hear you say it back to her. And she'll cry, oh lord, will she cry. She'll cry over the way you looked at that girl, or the way your eyes stopped lighting up at her name. She'll cry when you start kissing her like it's your job and touching her like it's a habit. She'll even overthink the fact that maybe she's just overthinking. That you do still love her, that all these worries might actually just be in her head. And so when you do leave, she'll still wake up nights six months from now replaying the memories over in her head like a jukebox saying "where did i go wrong?" or "what did i do this time?". Do not date an overthinker. Do not do it unless you plan on marrying her.

People who understands

I like people who understands. The type who aren't quick to judge. You can vent to them, and labeling you will be the last on their mind. They don't believe rumors because they know there are two sides to every story. They give you a chance before they judge you. They get to know who you really are, then have an opinion. I like those type of people.

Mythomania

An excessive or abnormal propensity for lying and exaggerating.

Liar

Once I catch you in one lie, it makes me question everything you said.

Face it

You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice.

She is a paradox

She is faithful and yet detached. She is committed and yet relaxed. She loves everyone, and yet no one. She is sociable but also a loner. She is gentle and yet tough. She is passionate but can also be platonic. In short, she is predictable in her unpredictability.

Remember

When you forgive, you heal. And when you let go, you grow.

Makuntento ka

Minsan may mga bagay na ginugusto natin ngunit di natin makuha, may mga bagay na hindi hinahangad ngunit bigla na lang dumarating. Ganyan talaga minsan ang buhay di natin maintindihan kaya dapat marunong kang makuntento sa kung anong inilaan sayo at wag mong hangarin ang inilaan para sa ibang tao.

Desperate

Have respect for people's relationships. It's embarrassing that you're that desperate, you'd interfere with someone's lovelife.

The difference between mature and immature relationship

Mature couples don't “fall in love,” they step into it. Love isn't something you fall for; it's something you rise for.

Falling denotes lowering oneself, dropping down and being stuck somewhere lower than where you started. You have to get up from falling.

Love isn't like that — at least not with people who are doing it right. Immature couples fall; mature couples coast. Because love is either a passing game, or it's forever. Love is either wrong, or it's right. A couple is either mature or immature.

How do you know? How can you tell if your relationship is in it for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone predicted behind your love-obsessed back?

First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. There are no passionate fights with passionate make-up sex. There's no obsessive calling, texting or worrying.

There's no real drama. Because drama is for kids. Drama is for people who don't know how to have a relationship — who live by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and obsessive.

Love is easy. It's the easiest thing you've ever done. It's the calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you've ever worn. It's something that happens naturally; it doesn't need to be fought for day in and day out.

When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there's no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that's peace of mind. A peace of mind you've never had before.. the kind that humbles and revives you.

A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind; immature ones drown in it.

Immature relationships ask questions; mature relationships answer them

Immature relationships are all about doubts. Does he love me? Is she cheating on me? Will we be together in two months?

Mature couples don't need to ask questions. They already know the answers, and they don't need reassurance from their partners.

They are comfortable and secure and free of doubt because mature love isn't about all those small questions, but a comfort in knowing the big one is answered.

Immature relationships leave you wanting something; mature relationships give you what you need

There's a void in immature relationships, an apparent absence and incessant worry that something's missing.

It eats away at you when you go to sleep or leave each other for just a few hours. It burns dimly when you're together, but you wave it off with sex and constant chatter.

Mature relationships have no void. There are no empty spaces or tiny cracks. There is never a feeling that something has been taken away or is leaving with the other person.

The love between the two mature people fills every crack in the fiber of their being they didn't know they had.

Immature relationships are striving to be one complete person; mature relationships are okay being two

Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete people. They are two halves trying to make one whole.

They are two people looking for something that can't be found in another person. They dominate each other, force themselves together and make one flawed mesh of a human.

Mature couples never strive to be one. They are two individual people looking to make two better people. The love between the two of them isn't about making both of them whole again, but more individual.

It's about pushing each other to pursue their passions, interests and become the best person possible.

Immature relationships lose their drive; mature relationships make you more motivated

We all get wrapped up in love. It's easy to spend days in bed and weekends in the hazy world of blankets and kisses.

But eventually, that smothering love is replaced with motivated love — a type of love that comes when you want to make a life with someone and work hard to get that life. Immature couples never get to this.

They never feel that motivation to leave each other only to come back more successful and more determined to make a life for the two of them.

Immature relationships fight over text messages; mature relationships are always face-to-face

Fighting is natural; texting is not. Mature couples do not spend their days bickering over a screen.

When they have something to work out, they do it face to face — where the meanings can't be misconstrued by emojis and auto correct. Immature couples fuel their relationship with incessant bickering and lengthy messages.

Immature couples see long texts as evidence of their “relationship” and find comfort in spending hours hiding behind their phones. They argue just to argue; mature couples fight for their future.

Immature relationships are about trying to find yourself; mature relationships already know themselves

Relationships are only for two complete people looking for companionship, yet many incomplete people look for it to complete them. This is when mature relationships and immature ones split.

You can't have a healthy relationship with two unhealthy people. When you're trying to use someone to complete you, you're creating an incomplete relationship.

Immature relationships are threatened by everyone else; mature relationships enjoy meeting other people

There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to each person and surprises behind closed doors.

Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by strangers and past lovers. They are confident in their love and their partner's love.

Immature couples find threats in everyone. They're delusional and paranoid because their love is superficial. They do not have a strong enough foundation to effortlessly glide past all the distractions and threats.

Immature relationships live by preconceived timelines; mature relationships let everything happen naturally

There's no right or wrong time to move in together. There's no specific year to get married and definitely not a timeline for your life together.

When you're in love, things happen at their own pace. You feel things, and you follow your heart.

Immature couples, however, don't have those feelings, those instincts and those effortless moments. They make up rules and guidelines and assume time is the only thing that makes or breaks their relationship.

Immature relationships judge you on your past; mature relationships help you carry it

We all have a past, and in many cases, one we're not proud of. We can't help what happened to people before we knew them. All that matters is how they are now. Immature couples, however, refuse to see beyond the past.

Mature couples don't just accept one another’s pasts but want to help heal the wounds. They look beyond the mistakes and the flaws toward the beauty in the future together.

By Lauren Martin

Ansatsu Kyoushitsu Season2 OP

You're all I think about,
Starting not to see anything else
I'll win your heart for sure (I swear )

Me, not cool? Oh, that old tale!
I've spared no effort since then,
Should be over my problems by now

I'm brimming with confidence: I can do it
And just when I get warmed up...

Yeah, I get knocked down like this every time;
Your scathing, serious voice cuts me!
Thousands. Tens of thousands of times, i've given form to my feelings.
Driven them in, thrown them in -- but all you do is run!

QUESTION QUESTION: What, 
QUESTION QUESTION: On Earth,
QUESTION QUESTION: Did I even know about you?
QUESTION QUESTION: Why,
QUESTION QUESTION: Do you feel,
QUESTION QUESTION: So close yet so far?

Tao nga naman

Minsan kung sino pa yung mga taong may ayaw sayo sila pa yung habol ng habol sayo. Binabantayan bawat pagkilos mo. Naghihintay ng pwedeng ikasira mo.

Obsession

I have an obsession with quotes because other people are so much better at putting my feelings into words than I am.

Seems legit

So let me get this straight, you are over your ex and happy. Yet you can't stop talking shit about him and his new girl? Seems legit. Your ass must be jealous of all the shit that comes out of your mouth.

Lame

Dear crazy ex,
Please understand that while you are talking shits and not letting go of your past, we laugh at how lame you are.

How to love a sad girl

Kiss her forehead. Kiss her eyes. Kiss her nose and the birthmarks on her skin and all the places she does not love. Kiss her knuckles and her fingers and remind her to breathe. She needs that. All of it. If she cries, your first question must be whether she wants you or not. Some days she’ll need you to crush her boundaries completely and pull her so close that her heart can beat alongside yours. And some days she’ll need you to let her drown a little bit on her own. But  you have to come back for her, after. Always  come back. Do not yell at her. If you’re angry, write it down or leave for a while to cool off and then have a level-toned argument with her. Do not yell. Do not ever yell. Tell her you will be at her funeral and  when she asks how you can be so sure you’ll outlive her, tell her you’re not sure of that at all. Tell her that even if you die tomorrow, you will be at her funeral. Do not ask her why she is sad. She will tell you. If you truly love her and if she knows that, she will tell you. Open her curtains. She'll cringe and groan and make a scene, but she needs the light. She doesn’t know how to make her own sunshine, so you’ve got to give her some. Let her tell you about things. Let her ramble on about a poet she loves or why she hates a certain singer. Let her bitch about her workday or describe how much she loves her sister. If you don’t let her talk to you, she will never let you know her. Learn  how to identify whether her eyes are stormy or calm. Learn her tones of voice and how to tell if she’s really okay or if she just doesn’t want you to worry. Learn her tells and her soft spots and love every last one. Take her to places, coffee shops, antique stores, city streets and your grandma’s house. She wants to see the world, and she wants to see it with you. Kiss her toes. Kiss her shoulders and place butterfly kisses on her cheeks. Touch  her hair and tell her all the things there are to love about her. Remind her to scream if she needs to. She needs that. All of it.

Yeah I'm fine

You think you’re doing okay and then suddenly it’s a night time and you’re alone and you’re not really sure how to distract yourself anymore.

No one is worth begging for

"Never beg for love. Never beg someone to love you back or be with you when you want to. Never beg for someone’s time, commitment, affection and attention. Never beg someone to stay with you when you need him the most. Because in the first place, if he loves you that much, he won’t leave you and let go of your hand. He will never let you beg for his presence and love because he will give it to you with open arms. Don’t beg, it’s demeaning and degrading. Remember, if you have to beg, he’s not worth it. No one is worth begging for."
- E.J. Cenita (baekebyan)

Let him go

I think you need to just close the fucking chapter on him even if it was long enough to be a fucking novel itself. You’ve cried over this boy so many times before, when are you going to put yourself first? When are you going to realize this is not what you deserve? When you were little would you have ever wished this for yourself? Why are you putting yourself through this? You are so goddamn important and he is a fucking idiot who didn’t deserve to know you the way he did. Let him go, let him go, let him go. There is nothing more you can do.

- Oh Inspiring Stuff

Everyone has a choice

"Girls who don't wear make up are more beautiful". False. Just because a girl wears make up that doesn't mean she doesn't love her natural beauty. She loves herself that's why she wants to be more confident and feel good about herself. Others are so passionate about it because it is also an art. Just because it's your preference not to apply make up, that doesn't give you the right to drag other girls who do it. Everyone has a choice.

Words by: Oh Inspiring  Stuff

Dear Bae

I never thought that you would be a huge part of my life. I never expected you’ll have a big role to play in it, to be one of the reasons why I live right now. You’re the person who I can’t lose, someone I can’t bear to live without because, it’s like half of my life will be taken away from me too. Thank you for the seconds, days and months you made me happy. I can’t deny the fact that you’re one of the primary sources of my happiness. For me, I am both lucky and blessed because God gave me you. I wasn’t asking for a person to enter my life again, but He gave me you because he knew it’s you who will make my life better.. and you did. You made everything better and easier, you changed me. You made me become a better person, you made me strong and filled me with happiness. Thank you for entering my life and for loving me. You have no idea how much of an impact you did when you entered my life. You radiated joy and love, which transformed me. So, please. Don’t ever let go, don’t leave me, don’t fall in love with another girl. I won’t bear the pain, you mean the world so much to me.

Live for yourself first

Do not allow him to consume you. If he does not call, go to sleep. If he does not message, put your phone away and have a fantastic day anyway. If he acts distant when you are with him and refuses to tell you what is wrong, don’t wait for him, go home and do something you love. If he tries to insinuate you do not need your friends now that you have him, spend more time with your friends. If he tries to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore him completely.

If he plays with your feelings constantly, walk away from him. If he acts like your body is his entitlement when you are not ready, walk away from him. If he says terrible, unforgivable things and threatens to leave you after every argument, walk away from him. If he forbids you from doing anything you love, walk away from him. If he claims ownership of your accomplishments, walk away from him. If he demeans you or disrespects your being a girl and refuses to stop when you tell him it hurts, walk away from him.

I cannot stress this enough, you live for yourself first. He is a secondary character in the story of your life. Do not allow him to turn you into a secondary character in your own book.

Let's talk

Let's talk about how hard it is to open up to someone about being sad for no reason. Let's talk about how hard it is to explain to your friends and family that you have this heavy feeling in your chest for no reason. Let's talk about how hard it is to understand why you’re having a panic attack while just taking a walk back home. Let's talk about how hard it is to understand your own self and how scary it is to feel like the whole world is falling on your shoulders and you have no idea why.

Keep some for yourself

Keep some for yourself.

1. wash your hair. It’s been 1 week since you’ve gotten out of bed. you’re crying too hard for a boy who doesn’t know that when you were born the doctors found stars in your bloodstream.

2. cheap liquor that tastes like peaches and bleach numbs the pain but it leaves you throwing up and I’m not going to hold your hair back so you can drink him down but he’ll come back up and burn your throat all over again.

3. He’s not worth the black outs and shaky hands. Eat something. He’s just a boy who pulled you in too deep. You don’t need him to save you. Get yourself out.

4. Latch your heart shut. save the key for a boy who wouldn’t mind picking the lock and make him give it back when he leaves, you are a hurricane, not a stitched up chest that he can rip open and let bleed every time he’s bored of misses your voice.

5. Wear the dress you wore on your first date with him every night this week. Make new memories in it so you don’t see him every time you open your closet. Leave it smelling like new boys wrapped around you and pretty girls kissing your cheek with red lipstick and cigarettes and city lights instead of him. You don’t fucking need him.

6. A hot bubble bath, tea, chocolate, a blank sheet of paper and paint can fix things for a night. I hope your bedroom becomes an art gallery. I hope you paint the walls and not your skin.

7. I still have love letters from my first boyfriend in the attic. You might not forget him but you sure as hell won’t always miss him. I won’t let you.

8. Sleep on the floor when your bed feels too empty without him. I’ll bring you extra pillows and blankets.

9. I’m sure he’s heart broken over you.

10. No, she’s not prettier than you baby girl, she’s nothing special.

11. I raised you to be the ocean not pools of blood on your sleeves.

12. He is not the same person you fell in love with. He doesn’t need your voice to fall asleep anymore and that’s okay. You’re in love with a stranger now. You don’t know him. He’s not the boy you kissed last weekend. So let him go. You’re not letting go of the boy you fell asleep with 3 months ago. You’re letting go of someone who doesn’t care if you fall asleep crying or not.

13. Don’t let him wipe away your tears. His fingers are razorblades and your cheeks will drip with blood. Don’t let him turn your freckles red.

14. You are the world. He’s lucky that you let him live in you for so long but he hasn’t been paying rent. Kick him out. He doesn’t deserve you.

15. You will find someone else to give yourself to, but not all of you, keep some for yourself.